There will be no appreciation neither a simple compliments nor a courtesy to say thanks to you but when you did some mistake accidentally or can't meet theirs expectation, they will take it very seriously and remembered it forever in theirs entire life.
Why? This is simple because humans are tend to be selfish and realistic. They will only look for you or think of you when you have things that are beneficial to them.
What's your say? What do you think? Do you agree with me?
3 comments:
It might be true. I do agree with you that human are tend to be selfish, but chinese saying, "人不為己，天誅地滅". We have to protect ourselves to survive. When we give, maybe we have to learn to expect less from others, so we don't get too disappointed. =) Cheers
Hey Sweetie,
Hope u r doing great! Just check ur blog. Good one! Hmm... Even though I'm speechless & skeptical, I understand where u r coming from. But I have to sress that I do not entirely agree certain part of it!
Well, u see it's very simple. Of course people got different personality/character, u can't expect them to act in the way u would want them to. Just open yourself up & I'm quite sure u can see it for yourself who, what & how things can be treasured/ appreciated. For those people who don't appreciate u or things u don't appreciate, just let it be, don't take it too hard & let it go. No point keeping it inside since it'll only make us feel worse which we don't deserve it at all.
Just do whatever u can & be who u really r! U don't really have to bother what people think or say about u. Of course I know at times u still have to take reputation into consideration & ppl won't have the wrong impression on u. Besides, all these r part of our lifes & it's a challenge for us tackle.
Also, we r only human beings & we tend to be greedy, only think for ourselves, make mistake, etc but all these r natural since nobody is perfect. All of us incl myself would really appreciate that someone come up to us & say a big "thank you which will make us feel better. But we can't be thickskined & have to look at a bigger picture.
To be honest, throughtout the 8 years of working career, I have gone through a lot! In the end, I just pat myself on the shoudler whatever it is, no matter how many mistakes I'd made, how many appreciations I got, it's definitely a 'well-done' & good effort put in incl. picked up many experiences as possible which had definitely made me skewed towards a much skilled worker.
On many occasions, I had wanted to break down & couldn't take it anymore (very frustrated indeed!). What pulled me through all this while was my passion, patience, never-say-die attitude, positive attitude & thinking, strong belief, etc. I had never looked back since & I'm so glad to have gone through all these as it had made me a much matured & better person.
On the other hand, even all previous companies esp machines' staff don't even appreciate me & said many things. But what can I do? I just kept quiet & don't bother at all. But I know I can do something which is to reverse the situation. When I was still at Machines, I took the initiative to approach them, have a good chat with them & understand them + their situation too even though I was extremely busy then. In this way, I told myself both parties can build a better understanding, communications, chemistry & that should be the way how we should work together as one. U know what? It really worked. As time passed by, I got quite a number of retail staff kept coming up to me & show their sincere gratitude + apologise for the wrong things they did. Strange eh? It's the human being factor & behaviour pattern. I don't think they r doing that because I'm at managerial level. Also, I do think we can't always expect ppl to make the first move but we can do it first even though u r a gal. In this manner, ppl can see the strong point in u & will definitely appreciate it. Be cool & patient lar. Other factors to consider u just need to play your part well & u don't have to bother or worry if other do not play their part or do not want to co-operate. At least, u can convince yourself there's nothing to lose! Basically, u need to be more open & do not let every single thing ruin your life, happiness, success, etc. I know it's easier said than done but at least u have to be strong to try it right?
U don't really prove to people that u r capable or do things for them dilligently. Just do whatever is necessary, right & for the good of yourself & esp for your career advancement. Be more confident, determined & motivated. Just take ur time & be patient.
Seriously, I don't think everyone is like this being selfish & only think for themselves. Perhaps all this while u may not have fully understand them well & other things like needs, problem & many more. It's a "give-and-take situation" (50/50) for both parties. If anyone of them do not want it, there's nothing much u can do dy (up to a certain level only) & even though it may affect your work, u just have to be tactical. By the way, do not have high expectations on other if you think they are not able to perform well. In the end, you are the only one who feel disappointed but not them which adds more misery. As time & work goes by, the best solution is to "take one thing at a time" & do your best"!
Lastly, pls do not have the impression that most ppl are selfish, cheats, do things beneficial to them, self-centred or other things. There r some of them till today who really care a lot about you, only think about u all the time & they want to be there for you as much as they want but you didn't realise it, u forgot it or u don't want to give them a chance at all! Even if they make mistakes at times, at least they still have the sincerity & heart which count. I'm quite sure they r truthful, kind-hearted & never meant to cheat u! Always remember there is definitely this someone who will continue to stand by your side with his driving spirit & always be there for you + a listening ear no matter how much u hate him or u don't want to "choy" him anymore!
On a more positive note, make yourself some time by looking at things, anaylse & think logically how you can further improve it or make things work out more efficiently. Just don't think too much & make your life more exciting!
Ok lar, I have already written so much! It has been my pleasure posting in your blog & I'm sure it will do very well. Keep up the good work & give yourself a pat on the shoulder! Well done & u r great!
Take good care & enjoy life! Do send my regards to Liz! How's your dad? Hope he is on the road to recovery & getting better! All the best!
Viva La Vida!
Love & Cheers.
The one & only,
AJ
Just a friendly reminder again... whatever you do, don't bother what ppl think or say about u esp on the negative point of view, be your true self & do whatever u want to which makes u happy!
Also, whatever you have achieved, be proud of yourself & don't feel let down at all!
Ur good frens & close ones will always stand by you with their full support!
Be cool & happy!
Cheerio :)
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